If you were one of the many people who got a pretty new ring over the holidays let me be one of the many to say- Congratulations!!!

Now, the real fun begins….

Planning a wedding.

Having recently planned one myself, and with working a wedding almost every weekend for the last 5 years, I know how stressful they can be.

Everyone telling you who, what, where and why you should do something.

It will make you want to scream and run away to elope.

Here’s my two cents.

These are 5 things that people don’t tell you about planning a wedding,

in no particular order.

1. No one likes wedding cake. Yes, they are pretty. But, more often than not, they are dry and you have to peel layers of gross fondant off of it to even get to the cake. There are plenty of other fun options for desert!! Like cake pops, cheese cake, Cold Stone ice cream bar (YES this is a real thing!!!!!), etc. Also, if you do get a wedding cake, don’t forget to eat it!

2. Traditions, are only there because people are too afraid to do something different. Almost all of them are boring and unnecessary. Making your wedding just like the other

10 your guests have been invited to this year alone. Make yours memorable and do something unique. This is you and your fiancés day. No one else’s. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks you should do…. It doesn’t matter when anyone else says you have to do. Its not their wedding day. Make it aallllllllllll about the two of you. No one else. Even if it will upset people. You will learn quickly that with planning a wedding someone is always going to be offended or upset with you about something. The only people you need to worry about making happy is you and your soon-to-be-spouse.

3. Don’t get too caught up in your body image that you forget what the day is about. Yes, this is your “big day” and you want to look your best. But, when you get so caught up in dieting and working out and worried about the way you look you forget to relax and enjoy this time in your life. Just be you. The real you. 

4. Pictures are the only thing that lasts. Yes, I realize this is a shameless plug, but for real. The dress gets put in a box in the attic, the flowers die, the food gets tossed and the party is forgotten. The only thing that is there to be passed on are the pictures. They are the things you hang on your walls, put in a an album, or give to family. So, invest greatly and wisely when it comes to the documentation of your day. (ps. if your photographer interrupts your dinner for a hot second saying that they want to go grab some quick pictures- ALWAYS do the pictures. Trust me.)

5. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Since we were little we have been playing “wedding” and dreaming of this day. Every detail. Making it this dream of a fairytale event. So, when something goes wrong we want to lose our shit and cry. When in reality, your wedding day is more than the flower being the right color, or your dress having a few wrinkles in it, or the shuttle bus running 15mins behind. Its about marrying the love of your life, starting your life together. Spending time with your family and friends. Enjoying your day. Enjoy this time, because its only happening once. 

Notice a trend through these tips?

ENJOY yourself!!

People get so stressed over planning weddings, making everyone else happy and stressed over details they forget to make themselves happy.

Put you and your future spouse first.